Your emotions are real - but might NOT be the truth

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May 15

I want to share something with you. What if your emotions are real - but they're not actually the absolute truth?

I experienced this myself because I get triggered - and when I do get triggered, I take a look at it and then that emotion comes up and leaves me.

So what I realized in that moment was that the emotion was real. I sat with it and then all of a sudden it left. That meant that the absolute truth came right behind it.

What do I mean?

The absolute truth doesn't change. It stays the same, but emotions come and go, yet the absolute truth remains the same. The present moment is an example of the Absolute Truth remaining the same. The present moment doesn’t change.

when I coach people and they're emotional, I say to them - “You're having an emotion right now. You're feeling it but it's real, yet look for the truth behind that emotion, just sit with it, look for the truth, and let that emotion pass, and you will feel better.” This is what I think is the absolute truth. We're here to feel good and it’s amazing - rather than allowing ourselves to be triggered by our emotionality

Entering the pain is a lot less painful than resisting it.

And a lot of people a lot of people in our culture and society and even our educational systems we are not taught how to let go of pain. People carry their pain for decades. They lose a loved one. Sure go through the grieving process but 20 years of grieving that's something different. You know, that means you're holding on to the pain and you're not actually entering into it.

There is a gap between the stimulus and response. In that gap is a belief or perception that will shape your reaction or response.

Viktor Frankl, a very well-known psychologist and concentration camp survivor, said that with every stimulus, there is a gap between that and the response. In that gap is your power to respond to the situation and be an asset to the situation. That means your emotional intelligence would have to become very active - meaning that when your body is feeling something, you can still access higher reasoning and respond according to the situation and context that you're in.

That's emotional intelligence, and that can be cultivated. Check out Daniel Goldman's work on emotional intelligence - the EI or EQ emotional quotient - which they say is more profound in terms of having a successful overall life. And that's why I wanted to share this with you today.

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Key Takeaways

Your emotions are real for you, but they are not the absolute truth.
Between the stimulus and a response, there is a belief and then a response.
You have the power to access higher reasoning over your emotions
Refrain from relying on external solutions to alleviate or cope with pain and instead confront it directly for deeper understanding and healing.

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